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Trials & Tribulations - The drama of running a business and of life. It's not as easy as it looks. Running a business is full of drama. Customers, employees, money, family, time. You name it, it's a problem. Share with us your drama and how you handled it.

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Trials & Tribulations - The drama of running a business and of life.

It's not as easy as it looks. Running a business is full of drama. Customers, employees, money, family, time. You name it, it's a problem. Share with us your drama and how you handled it.
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Old 12-01-2011, 01:45 AM
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Every now and then I'll have my moments. I had decided to write down exactly what I feel about the changes in my life, once becoming a business owner. Maybe some of you can relate?

My life is too fast for my own good, and it has become very difficult to 'keep it together'. With every step of progress, another part of me is sacrificed. I've got a lot of problems, but way too many theories on how to solve them, and I hate to gamble. It seems as though being somebody to rely on will ultimately take 'you' away from yourself, along with the passion that you once had. The path I have created has been detrimental to some extent, but it allows me to do what I'm best at. Hope may be for fools, but it's all I've really got helping me put this puzzle of mine together. I'm grateful.



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Great post. How do you feel this is related to you starting your business or is it just something you have been experiencing since you got your business started and not necessarily related to starting your business?
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I hear you. Life is way to short to waste banging your head against a wall.
I find my thoughts are bouncing around in my head and I have a hard time getting them in order my mind races with thoughts of nothing and this to me is so confusing.
I find having my own business has helped keep my thoughts straight keep my mind on one thing, But it the down time that gets me I feel as if I loose control of my life as things begin to spin out of control or seem to my life is constantly on the move I can't sit still or be in a quite room. I have been home sick all week and am about to go out of my mind, I am wondering around the house starting things but not finishing anything. I am easily distracted and I'm off to something new. I also use substance abuse to try and calm things I know I do it I know why and when I do it but I still do it and I can always find a good reason to do it.
For most people life is a road to a destination for me its a journey with many forks in the road. No wrong paths to take just some that are better then others some that go nowhere and some that go to where you want to be.
I talk a lot but say nothing people don't understand me and for that I do not have lots of friends I tend to open my mouth without thinking and offend people.
I just reread what I wrote above and its seems just like a stupid rambling, But that is what is going on in my head rambling.
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This is the truth! It is tough running a business especially with this economy, most of the time there is nothing you can do but bend over and take it…time is your enemy. There are A LOT of things you want to do, expansions you want to make, money you want to invest that you just don’t have, investments that would make your job and life a lot easier and you just have to sit there and wait for things to happen. But the type of person that you are doesn’t allow you to just sit and wait. IT SUCKS. And the thing sucks the most (well it was for me at least) was if you finally told someone that you were in a tough position the response that you get “just keep trying, it will work out eventually” well when? And how do you know? And yea its easy for you to say that I’m the one that has to sit here and take it and its my credit, reputation, business… that’s on the line. And dealing with people really beats you down also, there is a lot of things that you have to “eat” just so you don’t loose a customer and that makes you feel like nothing. It sucks and we all feel you. I could go on for days but I wouldn’t want to bore everyone so just wanted to let you guys know that been there felt that. Hang in there. “What ever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”
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I also cant “just sit there” and this really sucks when I get home and my daughter wants me to play or watch a movie or spend time with her and I cant. I have bills or scheduling or am soo tired that I just fall asleep and this really hurts me the most that I can’t be there for her 100%. We have it pounded into our minds that we need to put customers first and we need to work so we can support our families but sometimes all they really want is you. I’m working on it because life is too short I lost two cousins one like 12 yrs old and another 18 yrs old if that doesn’t remind me that life is short I don’t know what will.
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Great post. How do you feel this is related to you starting your business or is it just something you have been experiencing since you got your business started and not necessarily related to starting your business?
I believe that everyone will experience anxiety during change at least once in their lifetime. I am unsure how those older than me manage, but I seem to be lost and unable to accept the future. The world is so fast, it's hard to remember the better moments of my life, and I want to remember everything.

Before I started my business, I guess you can say I was more 'care free', but that would be lie. I needed to start my own business, or I would have nothing, and I would be nobody.

Running a business is a lifestyle, just like being healthy and in shape. Both require you to punish yourself to get anywhere, sometimes on psychological levels. Sometimes I feel as though I am held prisoner, and being tortured. What I mean is, life is a game, every interaction with a person is a part of the game. It can be exhausting. Everyone has an expectation, and everything you say is being evaluated and will determine the end result. I could be the best businessman ever, but I refuse to sell my personality that easily, it would scare me. I am more comfortable being hated by many and liked by few, then to be liked by everyone for being someone I'm not. I'm not a robot, I'm a human who just wants what I deserve. A lot of people forget that, in the end, we all just want what we require and to live in peace. Customers want what they require and more, they disturb the peace.


If my writing doesn't make sense, it's because I have a habit of writing the way I talk and think. It's a conversation with myself that I understand.

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A lot in life has been over-simplified, to the point that we have become unable to adapt backwards in order to tackle our most difficult challenges.

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People are so easily influenced. How so? In every way imaginable. You have all outnumbered us logical beings, and now we must suffer and tolerate the fact.

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The thing I wonder is, who is creating all this? Who is in charge of this?

Are you creating the rules you live with? If you don't like them, can you change the rules? Or do you feel they are forced upon you by others? By the customers?
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"I am more comfortable being hated by many and liked by few, then to be liked by everyone for being someone I'm not."

This is true...I have come to realize there are more important things in life, particularly being at every one of my son's baseball games, being with my daughter while she rides her horses, and just being "available" for my wife and kids.

Right now I am trying to transition from working a job that exhausts me, is not fun anymore and sucks the blood out of every pore in my body. My lifelong goal of being an entrepreneur and having my own business is important to me. A friend of mine just retired in May...Thanksgiving week he had a major heart attack and had quadruple bypass surgery. I'm sure it was the stress that our line of work creates which was the last straw for me to put my business plan together and forge a new road for myself and my family. I am giving up a lot, but I can make the same or more money doing this business and as long as I am smart with my money I will be fine later on in life. I know this business will be stressful too...but a different kind of stress that is more manageable and the freedom to make my own choices is something I long for.

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The thing I wonder is, who is creating all this? Who is in charge of this?

Are you creating the rules you live with? If you don't like them, can you change the rules? Or do you feel they are forced upon you by others? By the customers?

A lot of the time, I feel that what I need to do for myself can upset others.

I feel as though I am in a never ending debate with myself and the opinion of others. Everyone thinks they know better, yet they have no idea what the reality of my situation is. The problem is that all of these people outnumber me, so I feel trapped and less sure of my decisions.

For example; People tell me it's not a big deal for clients to miss making their payments on time, that it could be collected later on. As if the client wont put up an argument with me, and he/she will be honest. Ha!

Yet, I'm the one who has to deal with the reality of it. I have a lack of 'understanding' support I suppose.

The people want the impossible, and I can't give that. I don't know who to trust.

If I do what 'they' say, I screw myself over and everyone loses. If I do what I want, everyone thinks of me as a monster.
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A lot of the time, I feel that what I need to do for myself can upset others.
With your example, the problem with not getting the payment issue resolved is that it could potentially put you out of business. So are there some things that you can make into company policy that would have to be followed or you would look for another customer?

Are there other issues that you feel that pop up and are like this too?
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