Well the problem with Batman, & many kids these days is that they can only seriously learn from their own mistakes. Telling them something to avoid future mistakes, will only cause them to talk back until they figure it out for themselves.
I can't tell Batman that Joker is the wrong type of person to hang around, because being rebellious is almost an addiction to those who never get the chance. If I tell Batman not to do something, Batman will want to do it even more!
Batman feels as though his/her childhood is going to fly by & he/she isn't ready to make the sacrifices in order to grow up.
I have tried to have an honest relationship with Batman, I mentioned my pastime & how I wasn't doing the right things while I was his/her age, though that has come back to bite me in the arse. Basically, I wanted him/her to ask me for advice because I had experience with several things, though now he/she see's it like, "Well you did it when you were my age, why can't I?"
I grew up with several crowds of friends & have been dumb enough to get kicked out of 5 different high-schools. I was always trying new & stupid things, & I've gotten myself into bus loads of trouble. It didn't take the police, my parents, or the people I've hurt to change me into the person I am today. A secretary of the last school I have been to reminded me
on my way out, "One day you will have to take care of a family of your own"
, by golly she was right! I needed to settle down & if I can't get school figured out, I better learn a trade that I'd be good at.
I felt so pressured to do well in school, that I couldn't! Once school was dropped, my life became clear. (Not a great thing to tell Batman, but it's true)
When I was Batman's age, I never felt pressured into anything, I didn't have an ego to feed, but I guess it had something to do with fear. I had a lack of knowledge about the real world & didn't have anyone to guide me, & I couldn't get help because I didn't know what questions to ask.
My biggest fear, was to grow up not knowing what to do, I felt hopeless.
What if my parents randomly died, what the heck would I do?
How do I start a business in order make enough money so I don't have to get a "job", so I can afford a stable life?
How do I get a license?
What is insurance?
What is tax?
What are politics?
Where does my money go & would I make enough?
I was thinking about all of this stuff since I was 13 years old. Everyone around me had good grades, even the bad kids. I would be lost forever.
I was so preoccupied with worrying about my future, that I felt hopeless & distracted in the present.
So the only thing I can do to help Batman, is to once again explain why now is the time to get his/her life straightened out.
I will give him/her all the right questions to ask & we will work together on finding the answers that he/she could understand.
I'm hoping that this puts a bit of fear into Batman, so it can fuel his/her need to take action now.
Though it's hard to say if it will work, but with the right answers to life's difficult questions, he/she should understand everything without him/her crawling under a rock & being intimidated by the truth.
As for the drugs, I know Batman doesn't do them all the time. Though the fact is, he/she puts drugs before other varieties of "fun". Batman believes that it makes him/her happy & it's always a good time.
Instead of going on a roller coaster, I'll stay at home & watch a movie. With Batman, the alternative to everything is set in his/her mind to do drugs. It's pathetic.
I wonder if anyone has some good material that I can show Batman on the effects of drugs, short term & long term.
I know that there are also policemen who work in lawn service on this forum who can give me some facts. Any word of advice? Any stories I can tell Batman?
I'd like to guilt trip Batman, he/she needs to know why it's not a good idea to call "drug dealers" with my cell phone, & the things that could happen to myself & him/her.
I need Batman to understand ALL of the risks he/she is taking with drugs & hanging out with the wrong crowd of people.
Batman needs to understand that the things he/she is doing cannot be justified. If he/she says, "my grades are better" I gotta have some sort of response.
Thanks a lot guys!
Time to go get high, see ya!
HIGH ON LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Haha...