Originally Posted by clandscaping44
im hoping to be more confident when it comes to going door to door b/c I get kinda nervous when I meet new people.
Throughout school I have been very sociable, I always enjoyed debates and speeches and found the best way to avoid letting your nerves get the best of you - is to KNOW that you are above those who you are in discussion with and only they have something to lose.
People may say I have no dignity, which may be true to some extent - though I am rather comfortable with myself yet courteous of others.
It sounds conceited, though it's a must. I have been to a few visits with a psychologist who believes that I am a 'self actualized' person which is the last step several people may experience throughout life.
It may be the way I've been raised, or the several experiences I've found myself in which kind of gives me courage. Whenever I'm in a tricky situation, I can say, "I've been through worse" so the present becomes less stressful.
The thing I notice recently with me, is I am becoming less interested in being sociable. It's not that I'm nervous, it's that I'm bored. I'm bored of conversations because I am at peace with myself and conversation doesn't benefit me - there is no gain.
I believe I am becoming anti-social because of my business. I wont even answer the phone for family, friends, my woman - the phone or chat is just dreadful. I think I'm turning into the Grinch! I feel rushed when in a conversation because it's something I've done over and over again.
I must be crazy. I stopped answering my phone the last two months of my lawn maintenance season till now. The only thing on my mind is how fast I can get my customers off the phone when they call, weird - it's my only concern.
I feel like I found a 'Cheat' to conversation, which took all the fun out of it for me. I basically just tell people what they want to hear as long as I can get something in return. Other than that, it makes me yawn.