Do entrepreneurs have a tougher time with marriage

[FourSeasons]

Originally Posted by [b Quote[/b] ]I haven't done a poll on this but would you think this to be the case? I think for alot of us it might be. One of my best friends started his own nursery about 3 years ago and he is trying to grow it big. It takes up alot of his time and money maintaining everything. His wife used to be supportive of it until she saw how much time it was taking away from her and going into the nursery. This is something he had started before he met her though. So they end up not getting along very well. She constantly gives him bad feedback about it and stresses him out. So he told me he's been seriously thinking about letting her go. I agree. If they dont want to support what you want to do or cant handle not getting all of your time then its time for them to go. But that goes for friends or anybody that might hold you down.

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I would never give up my business for a woman. I am on my second marriage and I figured out that I am not any good at being married. I love my wife and we get along pretty good most of the time. But the reason we are still together is because she supports me so far. if it came to me giving up my business or giving up her. well.... The reason I feel this way is because I know all women are crazy...lol my first wife supported me by holding the guy next door next to her body. the woman is satans daughter. I have been divorced for 11 years and I still hate that woman. Man Steve look what you went and done....LOL

[Steve]

Well it is a fascinating insight into the topic.

What do you think you get most out of your business? What do you feel it provides you with mostly?

[kc2006]

I'm not married, but in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage in the soon future.

I just started my business before I met my girlfriend. And it was never an issue that I worked for myself, and she knew that I was still in the early stages and struggling. And shes been supportive all along. Back in the early stages of our dating she did question one time what I had planned as a back up if ever needed, I took alittle offense to it (thought wow she thinks I'm not going to make it) but I then saw where it was coming from. Her family didn't have alot of money at all when they were growing up, her dad didn't like to work I guess. So I think she just didn't want that type of life, and believe me neither do i. So I assured her I'd be successful but in the event that i need to do something, I have many routes to go.

Other then that one time, it's been nothing but support. I've said I was going to just sell the business off and go work somewhere because it'd be easier, and she flipped (i feared for my life!). She really didn't like that at all, and said she wouldn't let me do that because she knows how much I love my business. So it proved to me that she was with me.

So I personally think, if theres a question of "would you get rid of her over your business" you really shouldn't be with her to begin with. I wouldn't dream of giving up on either. That tells me I got a good one.

Not to say there is some stressful times, we live a half hour away from each other and last year we had that huge snow storm and I almost missed our first valentines date, but I got my work done and made it happen for her. Might of been alittle late, but I balanced both worlds.

[All Aspects Landscaping]

Kurt... you hit the nail on the head... You would wear a pair of boot thats dont fit right?? How bout you steve?? You always seem to come up with compelling topics but seem to evade giving your opinion... lol... anyways, I stand my previous statement... Id give the world up for her... she gave me the two most beautiful daughters a guy could want... When I start work at 7 am, all I think about is getting home to see them. We've been together over 11 years and owner 4 businesses... nothing comes between us... I wish you guys could find half the happiness that I have, youd learn that moneys not the only thing in the world

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I always like to hear about true love, but I know that isn't the way it is in most cases. I also know how things change from getting married to being married its like night and day.

Like with my first wife, the day after we were married, it went from on my God I'm married to what the #### did I do. I have never in my life see someone change that fast. I swear a demon came out of her.

and after that it was down hill all the way, it cost 30 bucks to get married and thousands to get divorced. and even after divorced I couldn't get away from her.

It still amazes me to no end how a woman can lie so much and have the law (men) believe everything she says to be true. I actually had a cop tell me once that she tired to have me arrested everyday. she actually got pulled over one day for speeding and told the cop I was chasing her. and I lived two hours away.

I even had a cop come to my work site and look through my truck because she told him I was carrying a shotgun. needless to say I lost that account.

as you can tell this is a touchy subject for me.lol

[All Aspects Landscaping]

understood

[tjgray]

How about when you are in business together. My husband and I have jointly ran our lawn company for going on 5 years now...

About half the time he makes me crazy...and I honestly think I seriously dis-like him about once a week...he is very stubborn and makes a lot of decisions that I dis-agree with. Plus we think differently on a lot of subjects.

We just celebrated 20 years of marriage on Jan 25th and I can assure you all that I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. While my above statements are true, Donald is a hard worker dedicated to me and his kids. When I need him I know I can always count on him to be there for me. My life would be absolutely empty without him in it

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Hey guys...

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (All Aspects Landscaping @ Feb. 11 2008,5:48)]...just glad ill never have to make that choice...

...well, I think If a woman?wife/girlfriend makes the dessicion of asking you to make such a hard choice, I belive THAT relationship was over Before this question... "what is the most important thing in your life? your family(pops, brothers) or your wife? your carrer or your girlfriend?"
I have told my wife not to put me, or our future, in that spot, never, because I'm not ready to let go something that I love.