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Ducke
12-18-2011, 11:56 AM
Well went and cut down our Christmas tree yesterday then went to a Christmas House Party last night, Had a great time lots of Alcool Punch. mmmmmmmmmm.
Today we decorated the tree and now I am sooooo depressed it isn't funny.
It just came on as we decorated the tree, I have never really liked Christmas it never really felt fun to me even when I was younger.
Its all the hustle and bustle and the so called need to out do last year and the Jones next door the bigger the better the more expensive the better it all just gets me down, Anyone else out there Hate Christmas and all that is "NOW" seem to stand for. Anyone else just want to crawl into the corner and wish it all away. I long for the care free day of Christmas past when I was little and it all seem magical, Fun, Special.

The Cleaning Doctor
12-18-2011, 12:04 PM
BAGH Humbug and Happy New Year.

Christmas is just too commercial now. Hell they decorate the stores after Halloween. The best part of Christmas is the dinner and leftovers.

TNTLawnCare
12-18-2011, 01:17 PM
I agree that is why Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, I enjoy visiting with everybody!!! My kids need more "junk" in their life, yeah right!!!!

bruces
12-18-2011, 03:33 PM
I hate christmas ,try to ignore it the best I can ,not going to the corner over it though .The best part of christmas ,is the look of pure joy on my dogs face ,when he gets his big bag of doggie toys ,the kids were never so fun .

JeffK26
12-18-2011, 04:01 PM
It's my favorite time of year.

Our family never got caught up in the commercialism, never tried to outdo anything or anyone. It's what you make it, just because the stores decorate after Halloween doesn't mean you have to go to those stores...when i walk in a store and there is Christmas stuff up, i turn around and walk out.

Heck, I'm 39 with no kids and me and my wife sit back and watch all the old claymation shows, Charlie Brown, make Christmas cookies and all that fun stuff.

We just went Christmas shopping last night and had a great time. Finished shopping today...We went to Toys R Us for the niece's present and a poor looking guy was out in the parking lot with a sign that was asking for money so he could buy his kid a transformer...we go in the store, and while i'm getting my niece's present the wife wanders off, comes back with 2 transformers and mentioned we should buy them for the guy outside...made his day...and reminded me of why i married my wife.

We draw names and have a $125 limit....( draw names.com is awesome )... plug in who can't draw whose name ( husband and wives ) and the site generates names for everyone...then on Christmas we all throw in 10 bucks and guess which person had our names and the winner gets the pot, or splits it if more than one guesses.

Christmas ( and anything really ) is what you make it...not what everyone else makes it out to be. The Joneses are probably miserable trying to keep up with everyone, while we're happy and having a blast because Christmas is how we make it.

:)

CHEESE2009
12-18-2011, 06:34 PM
The key is to stay drunk.

Christmas is stressful, and can feel pretty lonely depending on how your life has been up to the point.

Most breakups happen right before a holiday. I wish for all of my ex's receive coal for Christmas, or maybe slip on the ice...

The girl i'm with now, I can seriously say that I often forget I'm with her.

"You're always busy, and I never see you"
I HAVE BEEN SITTING ON MY ARSE DOING NOTHING FOR MONTHS LADY!!!
Yet she's the one always busy now... with that.. "SCHOOL" or wtv you call it.

Women logic = Men are at fault by default, even when we're right.

She's getting coal for Christmas too...

TiedemanLLC
12-18-2011, 10:11 PM
The big thing is make it special again. Start having fun, enjoying Christmas, don't buy gifts, instead look forward to the food and visiting with family.

Just tonight my wife and I sat down with our little boy and watched an old Disney Christmas cartoon. We got a kick out of it because we remember watching it when we were younger.

Do things that are crazy too, that may make it fun agian. Like this year was the first time ever that I did a Black Friday sale. It was crazy. My wife said I was pale white, but I still had fun watching all of the other people. Watching a grown man lay his body across a toy for his child so no one else would take it is just damn funny. Not to mention watching $9.99 griddles being thrown in the air and over the top of aisles. It was entertaining. I am already looking forward to doing it again next year.

Another thing that our family has done is get back to the tradition of observing the true meaning of Christmas. It just makes it feel so much better. We put caps on gifts, and only buy for children.

I remember in years past whenever I saw our Christmas lights plugged in I would say to myself "crap, how much is that going to cost us this month in our electric bill", but now I don't care, I am enjoying it. In fact, when everyone goes to bed, I keep everything plugged in while I am still watching tv.

picframer
12-19-2011, 04:30 AM
Like many things in life it is what you make it.

Personally I have never made a big deal of Christmas in our home when it comes to gifts, if the kits (now both in University) needed something during the year, I bought it, if they wanted something I it made sense and I had the money we bought it.

Come Christmas morning there are a few presents and stockings however it's never been over the top.

If the weather allows we generally go on the ATV's which is what we are doing again this year and we play a lot of games, board games and some X-Box, visit friends and basically eat and hang out, in short we keep it simple.

Hedgemaster
12-19-2011, 08:06 PM
Christmas can be a really difficult time if you're going through a rough spot in life. Everyone is "supposed" to be cheery and joyous, but sometimes life kicks you in the nuts and no matter what, things just SUCK - even if it's "Christmas".

There's pressure to be happy. Pressure to buy things to make others happy. Pressure to get fifteen dozen cookies "just right". Pressure to do all these things and more ON TOP of the normal, everyday pressures we all must endure.

We've been financially strapped for the last three years - to the point of giving essentially no Christmas gifts. Being broke sure does simplify things - if you can withstand the pressure. Some people will buy, and buy, and buy even though they have no means of paying for it. I have no sympathy for them when they later cry the blues about not being able to pay the bills. Learn how to suck it up and be responsible - if you can't afford to buy gifts - don't. Give cookies, or something homemade - people appreciate it more anyway. (And if they don't, screw them)

We've been struggling to get our dog back on his feet after his surgery. It's been a big hit financially, and emotionally. "Christmas" is the last thing on our minds. I said that if he can walk by Christmas, that will be the best gift I could receive. We can't go visit anyone because we can't leave him alone, we can't buy anything because we have $6,000 in vet bills to pay for.

As much as this Christmas (and the last few) "sucks", I am still grateful for what I have, and for the true meaning of Christmas. There is a home near here that sits up on a hill and each year they place a lighted star of Bethlehem out that can be seen from my second story window. No matter how crappy I'm feeling, I can look at that star in the night and feel a little better. Sappy, I know, but it reminds me that there are more important things than buying "things" and all the other stresses of the Christmas season.

Merry Christmas everyone! (Hang in there!)

Ducke
12-20-2011, 07:38 AM
I agree with you hedge, Its been a very trying year here at the Duck Pond.
With the stress of starting a new business and the change in income (this the first year and all) My Mom passing back in April and the my Father in law falling ill and passing in August . Then my wife was laid off and again change in income.
2011 really sucked other then the fact I made the company work and i did make a profit small but it was there plus I managed to pay all the bills.
I am so looking forward to 2012 and my second year . I hope it will be much more happier then the past year way to many tears were shed in 2011.

bruces
12-20-2011, 12:35 PM
I saw something today that made me think .My good friend totaled his Suburban three weeks ago ,and he has been fighting with his insurance company ever since .I drove him this morning to his insurance company ,and I waited in my truck while he attended to his business .Anyway,it is garbage day in that area ,and an older fellow rides up on his mountain bike,and gets off it beside the recycling box .He proceeds to remove and fold up every piece of used christmas paper he could find in the garbage .I couldnt beleive he would carefully remove all the old paper since his grand total new off the showroom floor might be $1.00 .Anyways ,he was there for 10 minutes ,so during that I went through my truck and pockets ,and gave him about $73.00 in change and smaller bills .I thought he was going to kiss me !

JeffK26
12-20-2011, 06:07 PM
I saw something today that made me think .My good friend totaled his Suburban three weeks ago ,and he has been fighting with his insurance company ever since .I drove him this morning to his insurance company ,and I waited in my truck while he attended to his business .Anyway,it is garbage day in that area ,and an older fellow rides up on his mountain bike,and gets off it beside the recycling box .He proceeds to remove and fold up every piece of used christmas paper he could find in the garbage .I couldnt beleive he would carefully remove all the old paper since his grand total new off the showroom floor might be $1.00 .Anyways ,he was there for 10 minutes ,so during that I went through my truck and pockets ,and gave him about $73.00 in change and smaller bills .I thought he was going to kiss me !

THAT is Christmas summed up in one tidy little package.

CHEESE2009
12-20-2011, 06:42 PM
Here is a quick scam to obtain some happiness!

Tell a woman, "I bet you a quarter I can pinch your butt and you wont even feel it".

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_l6vaTUOoyZw/TQmrq66Z4ZI/AAAAAAAAAHk/9cGLmTZv1iI/s1600/old-man-laughing.jpg
pictured above: me

She'll feel it, but it's a quarter well spent. :D


Just don't do it to your friends sister, you won't be invited to Christmas dinner anymore.

Ducke
12-21-2011, 06:35 AM
aaahhhh now you post a real picture of your self on the forum .
You really must be in the Christmas spirit. :D


The Real Cheese
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_l6vaTUOoyZw/TQmrq66Z4ZI/AAAAAAAAAHk/9cGLmTZv1iI/s1600/old-man-laughing.jpg
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year

Steve
12-21-2011, 12:01 PM
I feel the movie, It's a Wonderful Life, is a life saver. There is a ton of pressure that is on all of us during the holidays and we can get to a point where we internalize all this pressure and then say what is the point!

When you get depressed during the holidays, you should pop in that movie and watch it through. It will remind you of things to be happy about.

http://media.ifccenter.com/images/films/its-a-wonderful-life_592x299.jpg

If we find ourselves battling with depression, we need tools to battle it back and I think that movie is a good tool to do it.

And it is also good to know that this battle is something that mankind has been battling for a long long time. Way before this movie was made. So you are not alone. Realizing that many are battling it can help you feel it's more normal than not.

Ducke
12-21-2011, 12:35 PM
I feel the movie, It's a Wonderful Life, is a life saver. There is a ton of pressure that is on all of us during the holidays and we can get to a point where we internalize all this pressure and then say what is the point!

When you get depressed during the holidays, you should pop in that movie and watch it through. It will remind you of things to be happy about.

http://media.ifccenter.com/images/films/its-a-wonderful-life_592x299.jpg

If we find ourselves battling with depression, we need tools to battle it back and I think that movie is a good tool to do it.

And it is also good to know that this battle is something that mankind has been battling for a long long time. Way before this movie was made. So you are not alone. Realizing that many are battling it can help you feel it's more normal than not.

You know Steve your right about that old movie. That and Christmas Vacation my two favourite Christmas Movies.
http://coedmagazine.files.wordpress.com/2010/12/national-lampoons-christmas-vacation1.jpg

turf&tree
12-21-2011, 06:32 PM
Ducke, the key to all of this just like life is STAY BUSY!!!!!!! I used to get that way and one year Christmas came and went. I told my wife, this year Christmas came and went sooooooo fast. She said you were too busy to worry about it!!!!
Every year I start as soon as fall cleanups are done with the next seasons prep.
Figuring out what is broken, and what I want to modify. I make parts lists, project lists upgrades to my shop Etc.. It is Dec 21 today and I am panicking because my door hangers have not arrived yet. I am NOT worrying about Christmas, I am too busy. I am modifying my T3000 spreader, I need tail lights on my tow behind sprayer, etc, etc... Need to get my renewal letters out and market to my competitors houses. Shall I go on ?
Keep busy!!! What is that quote Idle hands are the devils workshop. Or something like that. The devil is in your house.
Jim

Ducke
12-21-2011, 06:55 PM
Ducke, the key to all of this just like life is STAY BUSY!!!!!!! I used to get that way and one year Christmas came and went. I told my wife, this year Christmas came and went sooooooo fast. She said you were too busy to worry about it!!!!
Every year I start as soon as fall cleanups are done with the next seasons prep.
Figuring out what is broken, and what I want to modify. I make parts lists, project lists upgrades to my shop Etc.. It is Dec 21 today and I am panicking because my door hangers have not arrived yet. I am NOT worrying about Christmas, I am too busy. I am modifying my T3000 spreader, I need tail lights on my tow behind sprayer, etc, etc... Need to get my renewal letters out and market to my competitors houses. Shall I go on ?
Keep busy!!! What is that quote Idle hands are the devils workshop. Or something like that. The devil is in your house.
Jim

I like the last big.
I think I saw the Devil in my workshop.
http://www.thewaxfactor.com/images/Ozzy-Osbourne-Talk-Of-The-Devil-363602.jpg
so I put him to work in my CD player BOOOHAWHAW:eek:

Ducke
12-21-2011, 07:17 PM
I've been trying to keep busy, But it not all that easy around here lately.
Maybe once I get Christmas and new years done I can then start with the equipment stuff although most of the stuff was done in the fall before I put it away for the winter.
The snow blower is all done and just sitting waiting for some white stuff,(nothing in the long Range Forecast).
There is a few things to do around the house and the shop, The flyers are all ready to go the winter letters have been posted, I am working on a new web site that is almost done just need to add some more before and after shots and upload the whole thing.
I did a lawn clean up today it was outside my service area but I took it anyways just to get some work to as you say keep busy.

CHEESE2009
12-21-2011, 09:53 PM
My fav Christmas movie;

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As for depression and the severity you have, you could never be free of it.

I know my situation is pretty crummy, the more fun I have, the worse off I will feel later on. It's kind of like having a 'crash' when reality sets in.

I have actually had my anxiety attacks yesterday, being stuck without anything to do, and no will to do anything for over a month (seriously, I stare at a wall most of the day) will hit you after awhile. Personally, I love being alone, but I do get sick of my own company.

Distractions help, but only if they are constant. Inside, you will always know you are distracting yourself which can be hurtful. I'm not sure if my case is similar to others because I do have several other problems mixed in. Other than that, being with the opposite sex and having a grand old time may increase your spirits. In all seriousness, It's one of the few things that have results that don't give you a crash.


I could tell those with depression to avoid staying up late, and to hangout with friends. In reality and for those who suffer from depression, we all know it's easier said than done. Depression is something that causes us to act out against our natural will. I have done some mighty crazy things over the years because of it, and for no understandable reason.

The best thing I have done, was to let the people in my life know up front that I have 'x' conditions so that they are not offended by my behavior.

/

Wishing you all the best. Remember that depression often has an 'end' period and you will end up back on track. Sure it'll come back to haunt you throughout your life, but reminding yourself that it will eventually be over helps, and will keep you from being overly self-destructive.

CHEESE2009
12-21-2011, 10:20 PM
My friend just broke up with his girlfriend (before Christmas, not very nice).
Obviously he is upset, but refuses to admit it. He's been talking a lot of negative crap, and posting sad pictures on his Facebook.

This is how you need to handle these situations, by never giving up!

/

Scott: how are you doing?

Friend: im alright your self?

Scott: thinking about you lol
going through a lot of ****ty emotions aren't ya?

Friend: not really

Scott: what's up my man?
let me know how you feel

Friend: im fine im the one who did the breaking up

Scott: are you feeling any regret, or anger?

Friend: no

Scott: Do you feel like she is incapable of making things better, and it's damn frustrating because to you, what she needs to do is actually very simple?

Friend: not really

Scott: tell me everything.
do you feel as though she is holding you back?

Friend: no n ill tell you later

Scott: I want whats best for you ****, I really do.

/

turf&tree
12-22-2011, 06:29 AM
Ducke, stay positive. Be around people who are positive. You need to focus, hell I don't even watch the news or read the paper anymore because it is usually bad news. Take a vacation, I take one every winter usually to the Caribbean where it is sunny and warm. Not grey and dreary it actually recharges the batteries.

Ducke
12-22-2011, 11:01 AM
My fav Christmas movie;

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As for depression and the severity you have, you could never be free of it.

I know my situation is pretty crummy, the more fun I have, the worse off I will feel later on. It's kind of like having a 'crash' when reality sets in.

I have actually had my anxiety attacks yesterday, being stuck without anything to do, and no will to do anything for over a month (seriously, I stare at a wall most of the day) will hit you after awhile. Personally, I love being alone, but I do get sick of my own company.

Distractions help, but only if they are constant. Inside, you will always know you are distracting yourself which can be hurtful. I'm not sure if my case is similar to others because I do have several other problems mixed in. Other than that, being with the opposite sex and having a grand old time may increase your spirits. In all seriousness, It's one of the few things that have results that don't give you a crash.


I could tell those with depression to avoid staying up late, and to hangout with friends. In reality and for those who suffer from depression, we all know it's easier said than done. Depression is something that causes us to act out against our natural will. I have done some mighty crazy things over the years because of it, and for no understandable reason.

The best thing I have done, was to let the people in my life know up front that I have 'x' conditions so that they are not offended by my behavior.

/

Wishing you all the best. Remember that depression often has an 'end' period and you will end up back on track. Sure it'll come back to haunt you throughout your life, but reminding yourself that it will eventually be over helps, and will keep you from being overly self-destructive.

Scott
I love the way you can put the way I feel into words.
I am experiencing the feelings but have a hard time putting them into words.
Depression is not any fun and its not as easy as saying stop it and move on, Its more then just Christmas but it times like Christmas that bring it out. Things are better right now as I am busy and the big day is right around the corner, It was the whole tree thing for some reason that set me off this year. It may have been the decorations that were Mom's or the hand blown ornaments that Dad had gotten in France in the 50's. Just got my mind going.
But I have a great circle of friends and a loving and caring wife and you guys that I can count on to be there for me.
Thank you everyone , Merry Christmas , enjoy your time off and your family and friends. Hold them a little longer and a little tighter this year and tell them you love them.

Graham
AKA: Ducke